I would wake up in the middle of the night with my heart pounding and my mind running all over the place. I was scared with a capital 'S'.
The day of travel was highly uncomfortable. I often could not eat and my mouth would be dry as a bone. I would be in and out of the bathroom many times and I would stand anxiously waiting by my suitcase before I ever left the house.
It got so bad that I almost passed out before one trip. It was an evening flight and I had the whole day to worry about it. My fear and anxiety took over and I started to feel the world slipping out from under me. I was outside and alone and it took everything I had to get back to my apartment and call a friend to come be with me.
Do you ever feel this way? Or some version of this? How does your fear or stress with flying show up in your life?
Your reaction may be less extreme when you fly...or it may be more...either way, I do know that we all experience a certain heightened level of stress with flying. In fact, one in six adults has a fear of flying.
These days I am much calmer when I travel and I no longer experience those extremes in fear and anxiety. I no longer start the process of worry, about the return trip home as soon as I get off the plane at my destination!
Travel is more easeful and much more pleasant but I do have to work with my energetic tools each and every time I fly.
My tools are ingrained now and I naturally start to work with them in advance. This helps me to manage travel in a much more proactive way.
Here are five things you can do to help quell your fear of flying.
How to Stop Your Fear Of Flying
This is one of the most effective and potent energetic ways to begin working with the fear.
Close your eyes and imagine a golden light, lighting your way to your destination and back. See the golden pathway from your house to the airport,then to your destination and then looping back from your destination to home.
Imagine a grounding cord that is attached to your hips that goes directly to the center of the earth. This grounding cord can be anything at all you can imagine, a tail, a tree root, a beam of light, a ribbon, anything. Its purpose is to help your body feel more solid and connected to the earth. It also helps to release the fear and anxiety. Send it down that cord!
Use your grounding cord before you leave for the airport. Feel the way it connects you to the earth. Feel the strong and comforting presence of it.
When you get on the plane, imagine there is a separate grounding cord attached to the airplane that helps with that same, safe connection to the earth.
Once you have settled into your seat and have put a grounding cord on the plane, begin to imagine the loving presence of spirit surrounding the plane and keeping you safe.
When we are anxious or fearful our nervous system is 'kicked on'. You do not have access to the rational or logical part of your brain. It is impossible to think your way out of the fear.
Your parasympathetic nervous system is what helps you feel relaxed. In order to turn on the relaxation you must take slow, deep breaths (as opposed to quick rapid breathing or even 'regular' breathing.)
Inhale deeply and slowly and let your lungs fill up with air completely. Then exhale slowly and deeply and let the air all the way out. Continue this as needed.
Essential oils help to calm and soothe fear and anxiety. The trick is to use them first when you are feeling calm and relaxed, so you have a positive association. Then, they may be used in situations of stress and anxiety.
Some excellent oils for a fear of flying are; Melissa (Lemon Balm), Lavender, Thyme, and Cypress. You can use all of them in a blend or as single oils. Place a couple drops on a tissue, a make up round or a cloth (a scarf you wear works very well), and sniff as needed.
Let me know how it goes in the comments below and what works for you.
I use all of these tools (and more) each and every time I need to get on a plane. It has taken some time but I am now able to experience a much more relaxed nervous system and ease with flying. I know you can, too!